Well I threatened Jon with a divorce if he pulls this shit again. (never thought I'd do that. I don't believe in threatening with it unless I will go through if needed)

ALL the shit between me and his mom was a lie. HE made up ALL the shit she has done in the past 18 months so that I wouldn't want to do a sit down with her. He didn't want another blow out so he figured if he just let me and her think the ABSOLUTE worst of each other then we would avoid each other and he'd never have to deal with it.

I decided that after xmas eve went so well that maybe 18 months of being cut off had made a difference in Linda so I called her and we went for coffee. 2 hours of talking later, we both have sorted a LOT of shit out, realized we were both mislead and lied to and that we both want her to be able to see the boys as long as she follows the rules I laid out for her.

Cracked me up after a sit down with the whole family when Jon looked at me and said "who would have thought that out of everyone YOU would be the one to fix all this". According to him he lied 1 time just without thinking because he didn't want another blow out, then he felt trapped by his lie and kept doing it. He claims he wanted to fix it but didnt' know how to without admitting to lying and bullshitting.

I'm hoping and praying that this gets through to him this time because if he pulls the lying shit again then I will do whats necessary. I think it really sunk in yesterday when we were talking about buying a house and I told him that I thought maybe we should wait because if we ended up getting a divorce then it would complicate things even more. We've already kids, we probably shouldn't add a house into the mix. That just kinda stunned him. According to him though he wants to get a house still because he wants to prove to me that he's in this for the long run. That if he even thought a divorce was a possibility then he wouldn't be putting himself a 100k into debt.

So yea. He knows he fucked up big time. Not only with me but also with his family. I don't know if Liz will forgive him for the lies. And he says that he understand that saying sorry isn't going to fix it and that the only way he can make this better is by proving it and really making an effort to talk, to tell the truth and to be there. I've also told him I want him to go to a therapist. He obviously needs someone to talk to other than me about this.

On another note, Link got his first tooth, Gabe dropped his first F-bomb, I got my glasses fixed and am actually wearing them, and I got my cleaning done already for the day. Oh and I think I got a plant I can't kill (bambo).